Are you sensing that your relationship seems to be one-sided and controlled by your partner? Would you be happier if you felt more confident in your relationship? Do you agree that there should be a give and take atmosphere between you and your man? You might not realize it because your trapped under his control but he is using very subtle manipulation techniques that even he doesn’t know he’s doing. It is a natural way of life for him because it’s what he learned from his father. You’re going to learn how to spot these manipulations and use them to your advantage to gain more confidence in your relationship.

Notice first if he is always trying to keep you from seeing a friend that does not like him. This is part of his insecurities. He automatically assumes she is constantly talking poorly about him even though your talking about different subjects. He will not let you see her or talk with you. You have to calm his fears and make him feel like he should be more confident. Ask him why he acts like that around your friend. Most men are not willing to speak their minds or talk about their feelings but you have to open him up. If he never reveals the way he feels your situation will never improve. Although men do not offer their feelings, they still have them and they effect them even if nobody is aware.

If he keeps you from doing anything you like, such as a hobby, you need to change this. Your hobbies, crafts, and passions are what give you life. If he does not allow it you will become a boring depressed person with nothing to talk about. It is at the later stages of life when this will truly hurt you. He is keeping you from doing what you love because he wants to keep you for himself. He doesn’t want you doing things he doesn’t know anything about like ice skating, playing an instrument in a band or orchestra, or different endeavor.

You have to become more confident by realizing he is no more confident than you. Unfortunately, he has no reason to feel that way. You on the other hand are being negatively effected by his actions. To make changes you have to open communications. If you are afraid he’s going to get angry or leave, the relationship is not strong enough to withstand the test of time. Children in this kind of relationship will not grow up in an unhealthy environment.